In the nearly three months since I adopted my dog Cassio, he’s spent every night on the floor of my bedroom. There have been some hiccups, like when we had to switch which side of the bed he was on since he kept rolling over in his sleep and slamming into the very rattly baseboard heater by the window, or when we learned the hard way that pushing the dog bed all the way to the back of his crate only meant he’d dig ferociously at the plastic for fifteen minutes before falling asleep, but all in all we both appreciate the mutual safety each other’s company brings.
This morning, my alarm went off like it does ever weekday of my life, only this time I didn’t have a fussy dog trying to shepherd me out my bedroom door to provide him with breakfast. Cassio is passionate about breakfast, so this was odd. Then I realized not only did I not have a fussy dog trying to shepherd me, I didn’t have a fussy dog anywhere in the room. Which was both odd and illuminating.
Sure enough, I opened my bedroom door and there was my extra fussy dog. He got himself shut out last night when he snuck off into the dark, and then spent the whole morning clinging to me to make up for our separation.
As I tripped over this needy pile of fluff more than once in my morning routine, I couldn’t help but compare Cassio’s predicament to my life over the past few months. How many times have I slipped out of the presence of God of my own accord, spent the night in the barren hallway, and then spent the next morning freaking out because the absence of my master was so terrifying? When in reality I’m more than welcome to spend every moment by His side?
In some ways, living in Colorado for the past 7 months (so long already!) has been everything I’d ever dreamed.
The mountains decorate my every drive and tower up over my apartment building. The weather is so much nicer than anywhere I’ve lived—we haven’t once hit anything above 85° F and it’s already June. People are forever outside, walking dogs and riding bikes and running up hills that make me out of breath just to think about, and the sheer variety of walks, hikes, and scrambles available within a 30 minute radius is remarkable.
Colorado is magnificent, y’all, and I wouldn’t move back to Texas unless someone was paying me a minimum of 6 figures. Might take 7, though. It’s that much Home already.
In other ways, though, in the ways that don’t show on the outside, this move has been really hard.
Coming into this move I knew that finding a church community to do life with would be really important, because I do best in a unit of like-minded peers who’ll keep me accountable for chasing after Jesus, but that’s turned out to be harder than I anticipated. My routine has changed, especially with a dog who demands every scrap of my attention before I abandon him for the day (he really likes to nap, so don’t feel too badly for him; he just sleeps all day) and so prioritizing a quiet time…hasn’t been a priority.
All that to say, it feels like I’m spending a lot of time in the hallway instead of curled up near my Master, and it’s draining.
It’s one of those things that I could have written about any time in the 7.5 months since I last posted anything on my blog, because nothing really changes despite my continued resolutions to the contrary. I celebrate the really great parts of life, and occasionally I pause and remember that there was a time that my relationship with my Abba was so much more vibrant and vital. But when life itself is vibrant and vital, the sacrifice of intimacy seems less critical.
Louie Giglio wrote a book called Goliath Must Fall, which my church in Texas studied…oh, a year or so ago? Anyway, in the book, Giglio lays out five of the giants common to our lives and how, though they’ve been defeated by the saving work of Christ, they still roar at us from the grave and need slaying in order for us to walk in the freedom we’ve been given. The five giants he lists are the giants of: Fear, Rejection, Addiction, Anger, and Comfort.
Comfort is a giant in my life right now. And that’s a weird giant to name and face down in a world that worships it.
Those other four in the list? Fear, rejection, addiction, and anger? Yeah, I could probably go up to anyone in the street, ask them their opinion on those topics, and they’d agree with me that they’re bad. No one would claim that those are great foundations for living—though we build our lives on and around them all the same.
But comfort? Comfort is a good thing! Comfort is the reason our parents worked so hard and sacrificed so much on our behalf. Comfort is basically the difference between first world and third world countries, right?
How can something so right, so good be a giant in need of slaying?
Ross King’s song “Clear The Stage” puts it this way:
Anything I put before my God is an idol
Anything I want with all my heart is an idol
And anything I can’t stop thinking of is an idol
And anything that I give all my love is an idol
So. Comfort. My warm bed in the morning. A good-sized savings account. Vacation plans.
Not bad things. But not the One Thing.
I’ve putting the wrong things first, and so although Colorado is undoubtedly great, I’m not living in the full greatness that’s offered to me. Sacrificing intimacy with the one who knows the number of hairs on my head (even when I cut those hairs way too short back in November and avoided mirrors for two weeks) cannot be acceptable anymore. Seven months of spiritual stagnation is seven months too many. Life outside my window is bright and vivid; life inside must become so, too.
Comfort must fall.
So go ahead and ask me what I’m learning. Ask me what I’m reading (and I don’t mean which novel I’ve picked for my 45th book of the year.) Community and accountability are the best weapons I know against indifference, and I’ve got just enough people-pleaser in me for them to be pretty good incentives too.
Here’s to a summer that’s beautiful for all the right reasons, and here’s to making sure Cassio doesn’t accidentally get shut out in the hallway again tonight.
❤, Melissa